Five Misconceptions About Choosing Adoption

By Julia Diamond
February 4, 2020

Choosing adoption is an “easy way out.”

If you talk to any woman who has placed a child for adoption, they would tell you that “giving my baby up for adoption was probably the hardest decision I’ve ever made.” Choosing adoption is far from easy. Instead, it’s the most selfless decision a woman can make. Women often choose adoption because it is the one option that ensures their baby has the best life possible.

Women choose adoption because they don’t love or want their baby.

There are dozens, if not hundreds, of reasons why women choose to place a baby for adoption. However, in all the years that our team has worked with expectant mothers, we have never once heard a birth mother say that she chose adoption because she didn’t love or want her baby. Instead, the most popular reason women choose adoption is because they want the best for their baby.

After placing a baby for adoption, most women never want to see them again.

This couldn’t be further from the truth! Today, most adoptions are open or semi-open adoptions. When making an adoption plan, women decide just how much contact they would like with the adoptive family and then choose a family who desires the same. For the vast majority of women, adoption is a selfless act of love, not a forever goodbye.

Most women who choose adoption are young and not ready to be a parent.

There is no one type of birth mother. Unplanned pregnancies happen every day to women of all ages and all walks of life. Some women choose adoption because they’re focused on their education, others come to us because they already have several children and can’t give another child the life they deserve.

Birth mothers regret the decision to place their children for adoption for the rest of their lives.

Every single adoption story is different, just like every birth mother is different. Some birth mothers will experience an immense amount of pain and grief following the placement of a child. However, we’ve found that birth mothers often find confidence in knowing that they have chosen the best future for their child, and as a result they have no regrets about their decision.

If you find yourself Googling “give up baby for adoption Florida,” or searching around for adoption agencies in Florida, you should consider reaching out to Heart of Adoptions. Since 2001, Heart of Adoptions has worked hand-in-hand with birth parents, helping them find a loving forever home for their child. We are here 24/7, 365 days a year and will always pick up your call at 1-800-GO-ADOPT